i feel like your level of intelligence would not fit in the average group. groups reflect the lowest common denominator. People like you and me bring in discerning opinions, critical thinking, and unusual perspectives, and we get the big red buzzer. unless you are running the group, this rarely works. I have rarely ever enjoyed groups, basically only running my studio. and now that I don't run everything, they largely don't even include me. Isn't it funny how that works...
You know how much I'd love to chalk it up to my superior intelligence but sadly I don't think that's fully valid (perhaps it is PARTIALLY valid lol!) I think ultimately I'm just a 1:1 girl. I become a more exaggerated version of myself in groups - I think as a coping mechanism to be remembered? - and I don't like it! But I do 100% agree that I think we both are discerning people who are open to dissenting opinions and I think the majority of people don't want to debate their thoughts - whereas you and I welcome it! And I also agree that the only groups I like are the ones curated by me lol! thank you as always for reading and sharing your thoughts! xoxo
Thank you for reading! You were my inspiration - I just had to put my own stamp on it. I know everyone has been waiting with bated breath to hear my thoughts on the ashley tisdale mommy group cut article! LOL
I did not know about this drama and am all too happy you summarized it here. I related to your personal story too. I joined one that I did not want to be a part of but thought I should accept the invite. Everyone was closer than I was. At one point, I hated the book but no one else did and I didn’t share my opinion. I was convinced I would quit. What I eventually realized was how insufferable I was being. I have no outside context to your groups, so I can’t say if anyone is the bad guy. But I related to the real point that sometimes we do have to look at ourselves and see if we’re contributing to the problem. In my situation, I definitely was.
Oh I'm so glad! I definitely thought to myself "does the world NEED your take on this minor celebrity squabble?" so thank you for this comment! And thanks for sharing your own book club struggles! So what did you end up deciding? Are you going to keep showing up? Or are you accepting that it wasn't the right group for you but you also probably didn't show up with your best energy? (as an aside - I know you're doing a lot of writing coaching now but I miss reading your own writing!)
i feel like your level of intelligence would not fit in the average group. groups reflect the lowest common denominator. People like you and me bring in discerning opinions, critical thinking, and unusual perspectives, and we get the big red buzzer. unless you are running the group, this rarely works. I have rarely ever enjoyed groups, basically only running my studio. and now that I don't run everything, they largely don't even include me. Isn't it funny how that works...
You know how much I'd love to chalk it up to my superior intelligence but sadly I don't think that's fully valid (perhaps it is PARTIALLY valid lol!) I think ultimately I'm just a 1:1 girl. I become a more exaggerated version of myself in groups - I think as a coping mechanism to be remembered? - and I don't like it! But I do 100% agree that I think we both are discerning people who are open to dissenting opinions and I think the majority of people don't want to debate their thoughts - whereas you and I welcome it! And I also agree that the only groups I like are the ones curated by me lol! thank you as always for reading and sharing your thoughts! xoxo
Totally agree!
Thank you for reading! You were my inspiration - I just had to put my own stamp on it. I know everyone has been waiting with bated breath to hear my thoughts on the ashley tisdale mommy group cut article! LOL
I did not know about this drama and am all too happy you summarized it here. I related to your personal story too. I joined one that I did not want to be a part of but thought I should accept the invite. Everyone was closer than I was. At one point, I hated the book but no one else did and I didn’t share my opinion. I was convinced I would quit. What I eventually realized was how insufferable I was being. I have no outside context to your groups, so I can’t say if anyone is the bad guy. But I related to the real point that sometimes we do have to look at ourselves and see if we’re contributing to the problem. In my situation, I definitely was.
Oh I'm so glad! I definitely thought to myself "does the world NEED your take on this minor celebrity squabble?" so thank you for this comment! And thanks for sharing your own book club struggles! So what did you end up deciding? Are you going to keep showing up? Or are you accepting that it wasn't the right group for you but you also probably didn't show up with your best energy? (as an aside - I know you're doing a lot of writing coaching now but I miss reading your own writing!)